Fish Leong and Tony Chao from Mayad Studios on Vimeo.
Queen of ballad, Fish Leong finally said “I do" on the 1st February 2010 at a romantic beach wedding held on Borocay island in the Philippines. The lucky person whom Fish tied the knot with is her fiancé Tony Zhao. The occasion was witnessed by 50 relatives as the entire event was filled with joy, bliss and tears. The couple is staying at the six stars Discovery Shores Hotel in a honey moon suite costing S$827 per night.
Having grown up listening and memorising her love songs, it became a channel through which i learn about the complex emotions in life. Be it a divergence of friendship, the despondency of heartbreak or the delectations in life, there is a 'Fish's moment' for everyone in her lyrics. Her captivating voice seem surreal yet fitting enough to both heal a confound soul or grace any gleeful occasions; therefore, to have watch the above video very much feels like reaching a significant milestone in my life. Like a process of seeing someone 'grow up' and finally having all emotions culminating at an event - the wedding ceremony.
The significance of wedding ceremonies may differ in perspectives across culture and individuals, but is very much perceive through our past experiences with weddings and our knowledge about the ceremonies. For me, wedding ceremony is where all the various perspectives congregate and be shared through our actions.
Beginning from the bride and groom, the exchange of rings, hugs and kisses are the amalgamate of experiences they have went through. In accepting each other's differences, it requires a huge level of accommodation. Even for the various attending guests, each of them will have their individual past interactions with the bride and groom, therefore each of them will bring a different perspective to the occasion. Despite the differences in personal constructs, what i feel of importance is not to try providing attributions towards the union but instead, give them our blessings and respect for their decisions. In providing them room to grow together, we are also seeking from others the freedom to explore and mature. Do you then think that mutual respect is essential in our way we perceive the world?
Wedding ceremony is also showered with fireworks of verbal language and non-verbal communication. Above are some words important in wedding ceremonies. Indeed, both verbal and non-verbal communication is essential for a couple before and after their marriage. Since verbal language has been well covered by many, i will like to elaborate on the much disregarded non-verbal communication.
Phrases such as "actions speak louder than words" and "walk the talk" have already exemplified the salient role non-verbal communication has. Our action very much represents who we are and what other thinks about us. Although what other perceives of us is subjective and receiver-oriented, it does not mean that you should ignore the non-verbal aspect. In fact, i feel strongly that be it appearance, actions or the lack thereof, constitutes up to 70% of who we are. Our inactions are an action in itself; therefore, our value to the society is then being judge accordingly. As such, do you still think we can remain as a hermit and be narcistic if we want to have value to the society?
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Words found in language may have different meanings to different people. Above i have provided a search link which you can try typing in your name to find out other meaning to your name. Finally, share with me what your name signifies (according to the above search link above) and provide me with your perspective to where do you think a perfect wedding ceremony should be held?
*Side note: I kind of think wedding ceremony am the sweetest event in life and it oftens bring tears.
18 comments:
this statement is so true!
"mutual respect is essential in our way we perceive the world."
not just in the world but especially in relationships. i've seen couple of friends who have had failed relationships due to lack of respect from one party. in other words the other party pretty much is like second class citizen, and in the relationship, because of the lack of mutual respect, much have been taken for granted, even to the extent of demolishing the man's pride and ego. thus i feel having mutual respect is really important!
I think weddings can be classified under one of the most beautiful social constructions in the world (: and I think a perfect wedding would be one held in PARIS/ TOKYO/ LONDON, under the romantic night sky & in autumn. Actually it doesn't really matter where - as long as you are in each other's arms (:
i think that many couples nowadays want to get married overseas as it is more "romantic" and thus modern weddings nowadays tend to be more exclusive (since its overseas, only a certain number of people are invited or can afford to go for the wedding). i still think the best place to get married is the traditional way in a church in singapore! and with as many people as possible to share the joy! why make it exclusive although marriage is between 2 people but i feel that without family/the ones close to u to be present then the wedding ceremony atmosphere might still be missing in some sense?
Definitely, I think mutual respect is fundamental to the way we perceive things and then subsequently, this level of mutual respect will explain our actions or inactions.
Only with this mutual respect and understanding of each other, (in cases of other foreign cultures, other groups of people) can love and affection grow. For a relationship to work, love is of course required for accommodation.
I think love is greatly underestimated.. often we are too proud to say how we really feel or to slip a simple thank you or a hug. Love is also not restricted to little love notes and presents.. it can be acts of service or putting aside time for your loved ones amidst your busy schedule. Just simple simple things.. that stems from this mutual understanding of each other.
And if you love but do not act on it.. I don't think you can say you've love. You may feel like you're loving this person... but without acknowledging it and humbling yourself to act out in love, you can't say you have loved, can you?
Ideal wedding.. Hmm.. I love the video! That's like my ideal wedding! By the beach with your closest friends and relatives, except with a lighter dress. I think what's most important for the wedding is to declare your love and make this covenant with each other and God in front of people who matter.. people who made all these possible. I'm sure people who witnessed it would be touched greatly too.
My name means to dance with someone?! haha!! or it can mean addicted to food or a retort to warn someone to back away. all depending on how you spell it. Interesting!
though this is just like another wedding I've seen, i feel that for every wedding, there is a touching and romantic side. if i can feel it, Im sure that the bride can feel the love X100000000000000.
but of cos, this only happen to true lovers, who are noble and selfless enough to put aside their differences and respect each other the way they are. it seems easy cos we have been witnessing so many weddings, whether its between our relatives or celebrities, or couples around, however, it really takes heart and soul to say "I Do!"
and for my own wedding, im not thinking that far. i guess that as long as i look pretty in wedding gown (and in photograph) and my perfect Man is beside me, anywhere everywhere is fine!
I overheard a similar topic on radio on Monday as well. The radio presenter is asking listeners to call in and share with her where did they marry and if they are still unattached, where is their ideal venue to get married.
Upon hearing different answers, I realized that there isn't any "ideal" place to hold a wedding ceremony. For me, I hope my wedding can be held at a venue which serves great significance to both of us. Be it the place where we first met or the location where we first kissed. And neither do I mind if there isn't a wedding ceremony. Just the 2 of us to go on an overseas trip is good enough to witness the entire "ceremony". When you think about it, it's quite a chore to entertain all your relatives and friends actually. Well, this is just my opinion. As long as the ulterior motive is there, anywhere is fine!
I typed my name in it and it shows this!!
"interj. a statement of agreement.
"Kelly, shall we laugh at some porn?" "Simin!"
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Wow! Really like the video, brings out essence of the wedding ceremony!
I think communication is really one of the key things to maintain the relationship of the husband and wife. And like what you mentioned,'both verbal and non-verbal communication is essential for a couple before and after their marriage.'Both verbal and non-verbal communication can either build or destroy a relationship over a period of time.
Definitely, wedding is one of the milestones of our lives! However it's sad as there's an increasing trend of people divorcing shortly after their marriage nowadays. Perhaps the vows they take are no longer regarded with much importance anymore?
Personally i'm a fan of Fish Leong too, and to see her happily married with the true love of her life really makes me envy and felt glad for her too! Yes, non-verbal communication can never be treated lightly in our lives. Actions speak louder than words.
Well yes marriage is often a happiest thing one can ever have in life.
Since marriage, to most people, signifies the everlasting committment to one another, it should often be done as elaborate, as memorable as possible. Personally, I would really love to have an elaborate wedding for myself. But behind the facade of this beautiful portay of wedding ceremonies and events will anticipate future rough clashes with one another. So having a nice beautiful wedding need not necessarily promise a good fruitful marraige as a whole.
Nonetheless, most girls would want be the prettiest bride in the most romantic place as possible.(:
I think that a perfect wedding ceremony should be an extension, a portrayal of the bride and groom's personalities. I'd like my wedding to be at a stadium with soft spotlights and rock-music-themed decor. It should be unconventional and exciting, with the highlight being a gut-busting, mind-blowing performance by my band. That's my concept of a perfect wedding.
'Our inactions are an action in itself'...completely agree with this statement. by not doing anything,we are being a negative contribution to society. if every person thinks, by not doing anything wont make a difference, there are so many people out there in this world, who is actually making the effort? society will only value us and our presence if we make our presence be felt.
a wedding ceremony is a celebration of a new start, of a new life that two people want to share together and it is one of the most sacred and important events in every culture across the globe. it's equally as important that the person you share that day with be the one you love and truly treasure in your heart. =)
Omg, I shall sooooo not type out my meaning in the space. I KNOW that you will type it out so just FYI, I am a very loyal, dedicated and faithful person. -.-
Regarding your entry, I liked how you managed to blend your personal stories and experience and relating it to what makes a marriage work. To have mutual respect is one of the key factors in determining if it is a heaven on earth or a living hell. Without it, how is one to respect the other enough to listen to their explanation when conflict arises, to forgive when there's a need and to consult the other whether it is a big issue or even a tiny one.
My perfect venue for a wedding is a place where I can be with my loved ones. People who would give me their blessings and share in that joyous occasion. Seeing how it is gonna be a once in a lifetime event, I'm definitely not one who is so sacrificial to settle for a wedding in a broken down shack but then again, I'm not expecting a lavish one either. Just a simple one in my church and I would be contented. ^.^
I believe that communication is one important key in marriage being verbal or non-verbal because it is easy for people to misunderstand each other since we all have a certain level of paranoia in ourselves. It is of course better to clear things up rather than suck it in and let the problem build up. By the way, I like the video! Wedding by the beach is what i would love to have (if i can find the groom. haha.).
That's such a sweet video! I definitely agree that weddings are the sweetest events in life, especially so for the groom and the bride. :)
It's great that you're touching on non-verbal communication before and after marriage, which is absolutely needed. As seen in the video, there weren't many words, just their vows, and yet, the sweet feeling and emotions can be felt so strongly just through seeing their expressions and movements. After marriage, non-verbal is still of an importance because, as you've said, "Actions speak louder than words".
As for having value in the society, it would be impossible to remain a hermit as it would only cause one to fade into the background -- or judged negatively. Both of which aren't an attractive route.
I tried the name search, the results were so random! Nice game to add in! :)
"Our inactions are an action itself". I like this one. Although I have to say that by remaining silent or not verbalising one's thoughts could lead to a misunderstanding,one could gather much information from either their body language or emotions. To me,nonverbal cues speak with much more intensity than words do.
I truly think its a wonderful wedding video and I think that while wedding seems merely as a ceremony to some, it encompasses of so much more as it extents beyond the day itself. In other words, the underlying fact of weddings is the decision of commitment, of acknowledging that our lives is no longer ours alone but our partner's as well. I think that the day we are all willing to see our marriage beyond our own needs and desires, thats the day we truly live out the vows declared on our wedding day.
I truly think its a wonderful wedding video and I think that while wedding seems merely as a ceremony to some, it encompasses of so much more as it extents beyond the day itself. In other words, the underlying fact of weddings is the decision of commitment, of acknowledging that our lives is no longer ours alone but our partner's as well. I think that the day we are all willing to see our marriage beyond our own needs and desires, thats the day we truly live out the vows declared on our wedding day.
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